When it all starts to build up, the stress, frustration, unhappiness, it can be these most frustrating times where you feel you have had enough with everything, this leads you take an emergency U-turn, a complete change in your routines that leads to a more nourishing life. Here are 8 signs that your life needs that U-turn, our body usually knows that things are not working out right, these are the signs to change your habits.
- Waking up most mornings knowing that you have to go to work and yet you feel miserable about it.
I don’t think we were ever supposed to be living a life where we wake up 5 days a week, get ourselves ready and prepared for 9 hours of working for something we call money. While some people love their jobs, there are others who do not. This idea of giving our time like batteries in order to receive paper that has been printed on which we call money would seem a little strange to someone alien to our society. Money allows us to live, such as having a roof over our head, buying food and being able to attain material possessions. Start to look at why you feel unhappy, whether it’s your job or just your habits of thoughts and actively start working out how you can change your situation. It’s easy to continue in the same thought patterns but this doesn’t solve anything. Finding solutions is always the best way to deal with your current situation. Perhaps it may mean you changing your occupation, if so then look at your possibilities. You are never trapped; there are always ways out, ways to change your situation. You have one life so it’s important that you make the most of it.
- Always feeling irritable with yourself and others.
It’s not unusual to have days where everything seems like it’s getting on top of you and you take it out on others. When this happens most days it’s clear that you need to change something in your life, it’s not good being around people who are always picking mistakes in you. This can be a bad habit to start so its best to finish it ASAP. Start to see good in people, none of us are perfect but we all have one law, we all want happiness.
- You gossip about others
Playing around, making fun of others providing they are there and they know its not malicious is fine but when it’s directly out of hatred, this can be unhelpful to all parties concerned. This is a sign that there are some insecurities about yourself. If you have an issue with someone, build up the courage to speak with that person kindly and patiently, it can sometimes be hard for the other person to take criticism so be mindful. Explain your thoughts with the idea that you are aiming to help the both of you over come problems. After the talk, there shouldn’t be another word spoken.
- Feeling anger inside yourself.
Frustration about something or nothing can often lead to anger and so can many other things. It’s easy to get annoyed about various things that are not going the way that you want them to go. Remember that life is subject to change and that changes are completely out of your control, the more you try to control them, the harder and more frustrating it is for you.
- Anxiety and depression seem to be a common feeling in your life.
Anxiety and depression seems like a taboo subject. Its like we are almost scared to discuss it but the reality is that roughly 10% of the population suffer with anxiety and depression. Remember that you are not the only one going through these feelings, this is common and although it may not feel helpful in your life, its another sign that you need to make changes in your life to feel whole again. Start to look at your options to get balance back into your life.
- You find yourself watching the TV as soon as you get home.
We give far too much of our time to sources outside of ourselves. Whether it’s social media or the TV. Its like our personal lives have nothing to offer anymore, we cannot fulfil our own lives with what we can offer to our lives so we rely on realities that are not real and almost like they have become our life. Start reducing your time of mind numbing programmes. TV and other sources broadcasting such as social media can be educational, so balance once again is key.
- Do you find yourself in buildings too often?
As most of our work is carried out inside brick walls, its become increasingly common for us to not have involvement in the natural world, we have become almost distant from what we are, nature. Perhaps you can increase your level of the fresh air and nature by walking home or start planning for a better garden. There are heaps of ideas that you can create to get yourself involved in the natural world on a regular basis. With most things, we develop habits and often habits are not always beneficial. If one of those habits prevents you from not getting out in the open, change it.
- Do you always want for Materialistic possessions?
Culture today because of marketing techniques has driven most of us to desire something, whether it’s clothes, technology or something else. If we look at a phone for example, companies put a new phone on the market that’s supposedly one model up from the previous one. They market it really well and hope that we have all fallen for their marketing campaign. While a mobile phone can be extremely useful, it can almost be an obsession to get a new one every year. The idea of this is to get us to consume and in return you will become so happy. In reality you have less money and over a short period of time the phone becomes very normal in your life. While a company needs to profit to survive, they may not be thinking about the environmental effects of their actions. As the consumer, you decide whether its beneficial in your life, whether its going to make a huge difference in getting the next model up or not, we are after all running out of resources. It’s expected that we are going to need another 2 planets to keep up with our consumer habits. Reduce the amount of stuff you consume, make your life simpler and easier to manage. The more material stuff you attain doesn’t mean it will make you happier.
Find out what really inspires you. You have a short period of your time to experience the world you live in. I don’t believe our job is to keep thinking ‘if I can earn this then I can attain this and that and so on’. I think we are here as social humans, to learn from each other, to be happy and to bring happiness into other beings lives through kindness and compassion. You have the option to make changes in your life where you feel changes need to be made, be courageous for the sake of you and others around you. Big things can come from just one person. Look at Buddha, Martin Luther King, Socrates, Hippocrates, Mozart, Dalai Lama, Malcolm X, Nikola Tesla, Mother Teresa. These are just a few names that decided change needed to happen, so they made these changes within themselves to allow you to see the result.