It’s perfectly normal in the world today to be a thinker, to allow our mind to explore every emotion even if we do not have control of those emotions. It’s even more normal to allow this broken tape recorder (thoughts) to take charge of our life. Ultimately this takes us into a world of suffering.
Most of us are unaware that our thoughts are no longer there to serve us but rather they are controlling our every moment. Instead of experiencing every moment like it is the only moment, we have become entangled in experiencing yesterdays problems or problems that existed even longer ago or going through potential future issues. It’s not surprising that we have become incredibly unhappy with our lives. How can we be happy in our lives if we are recollecting and replying memories that have never served us?
If this sounds like you then read on:
If you are constantly reminding yourself of past experiences that were not pleasant, its time to let go. These experiences can help to guide you. However dreadful these experiences were, they are not much help in constantly reliving, you have already suffered enough. When you are experiencing these moments and realise you are, then you have become present.
If you are constantly concerned or stressed about the future, perhaps you need to complete a work deadline or you have some other worries. Remember that you can only take care of your current moment, so it makes no sense to worry, the only alternative is just being.
If you recognise that you keep talking to yourself, this is a wonderful opportunity to use this to your advantage. As soon as you notice your mind chattering, you bring presence into your life at that very moment. If you can continue doing this, presence will exist more and bring with it more ease into your life.
So try to remember, pushing anything away will not solve whatever it is, it will create more of it, it gives it more juice. Try to work more in line with bringing good thoughts into your life even if they are not currently true.
You are your own creator, as Buddha said: The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.
Meditation is used to bring your attention to the now. It can be as simple as following the breath. The longer you dedicate to your practice, the more refined you become. At the start your mind may drift off and you will get lost in your thoughts while in the gaps you find presence, try to bring yourself back to following the breath and eventually you will be mostly presence and in the gaps your thoughts will wonder. After some time you will notice you have become calmer, more at ease with everything around you during your day.
The real turning point is when you can bring your practice into your every day tasks, job, relationships, gardening or whatever you find yourself doing daily. Within time you will become the transmitter that brings about joy to others lives not by speaking but by being. The good news is that you don’t need to add anything to your life to do this; presence is all you need and you already have that under the layers.